Being Chinese: an Up or a Down?

Being Chinese can be a down or up, a debit or credit on our life ledger. For those of us who are Chinese and want to know our Chinese-ness and how that has shaped us or is still shaping us on an UNCONSCIOUS level, this is a lifelong challenge. This challenge occurs on so many levels. To really examine this process we need a psycho-cultural approach. This immediately implies we require knowledge from psychology, anthropology and sociology just to mention three perspcetives. To understand one self psychologically is hard enough but to understand how our culture and society have shaped us truly needs a multi-coloured perspective.
To attain some understanding of our spiritual and psychological/cultural growth which is the basis for authentic relationships with our selves and others is a journey worth pursuing no matter how challenging. However, there are interesting ways of getting to the core of this challenge that is, who are we as Chinese? are we being too Chinese? is that an advantage or disadvantage? and what do being too Chinese mean? i know i am being Chinese when i am overly picky about how things are done. The Confucianist perfectionist in me wants every detail attended to, resulting in high stress in some situations as there is perfection impossible to achieve. When I am overly competitive, aha, is the Chinese in me rearing its head ?
Self questioning is a good technique to use for understanding our Chinese self. Other methods such as story-telling, journalling and dreaming through relaxation and contemplative techniques derived from a Taoist/Jungian perspective can also be useful. A workshop on Am i being too Chinese and how is that going to help or impede me in living with and forming relationships with others could be useful, dont you thing? Let me know.

Are Chinese sexually repressed because of Confucius?

Confucius had taught that part of the process of attaining perfection, as a human being is to suppress all emotional display. So no touch, no verbal praise, not even a blatant look of pleasure. As a result, children brought up in the Confucian tradition consciously or unconsciously imbibe the notion that it is inappropriate to show any feelings no matter how sad or happy. Girls are to giggle behind their hands should laughter rise involuntarily. Tears are to be shed in the heart thus the imperative “to swallow bitterness” in order to inculcate the ability to endure suffering, the fate said to be of the female condition.
Out of a culture that prohibits the open display of human emotions comes the language of silence and indirect communication. It also gives birth to the stereotype of the “inscrutable Chinaman”. Perhaps Confucius was trying to train us to win at all poker games. A more interesting implication that flows from this Confucian dictum of no show of emotions also meant that the incest taboo universal in varied cultures is particularly enforced in Chinese households unwittingly. If fathers and daughters were so strongly prohibited by tacit cultural imperatives of no physical contact, it would seem a Herculean task indeed to try and commit incest. In fact studies have shown that when one correlates ethnicity and incest, we Chinese are pretty clean. In fact our incest taboo is so strongly enforced that people of the same surname are prohibited to get married in the old days. So two Wongs do not a marriage made. Never mind if one Wong comes from Canada and the other from Jamaica. If they are Wong and the written character is the same, ‘hello young lovers’ had better be zaijian lovers.

Homestay for Students from China

Now back in Australia, i am finding more students from China in the streets walking, talking, in shops working as sales assistants, in colleges and universities and we are desperately short of good quality homestays for them! These students have left their homes for the first time and Australia is definitely a foreign experience. Some of them will be very homesick for the first 3 weeks till they find their own friends to hang out with. Homesickness is a phenomenon akin to 'love sickness' - there is a low feeling, rather similar to depression, longing for familiar things such as food and bed and of course, family or friends left back home. Students suffering from homesickness may weep daily, and do not express any wish to engage with people. Of course this sort of "anti social" behaviour may upset the host family members as they too may be very inexperienced in handling such a state. Most of the homestay Australian families may have been totally new to taking in students from China. Successful homestays usually mean that the students and the host family are happy and well adjusted to each other. Such successes depend on how much knowledge we have regarding the cultures of each other and an understanding of such thngs as homesickness. A good well adjusted homestay for both parties is something to strive for and requires hard work on all fronts.

How China Matters if you are in relationship with a Chinese

China matters specially to you if you in a social or business relationship with a Chinese person. This includes yourself as everyone has a relationship with oneself. Many of us who are Chinese by ethnicity often wonder whether this is a plus or a minus if we live outside China. Should we consider ourselves as Chinese or what? I manage this by simply saying I am an Australian or Malaysian citizen but Chinese by ethnicity or parentage. Then what does this really mean? Of course, one then has to answer what is Chinese or Chinese-ness? and not being born in China matters or not?
Reviewing my life, my answer is YES! China matters! why? for me China matters because the Chinese culture having gone through centuries of transformation, remains essentially intact on a subterranean level, on its unconscious level. On this level, in spite of modernisation and globalisation, China is still shaped by the Confucianist ethic. Yes, China matters on this level for on this platform, the Confucianist Ethic informs not only 1.4 billion Chinese psyche but also that of the 25 million or so members of the Chinese diaspora and the Chopsticks people of Japan, Korea and Vietnam! On this unconscious level China matters for most of its citizens do not realise that their unconscious cultural psyche is Confucianistic. This, when juxtaposed with a communistic government with trappings of modern capitalism, make for a mighty dragon!
In relationships, whether business or social, what is the significance of this? it depends how well you know your cultural psyche: whether you are white Anglo Australian, Canadian, American or Japanese, Indian or Arabic.

Chinese Entreprenuers in Florence

Chinese Entreprenuers in Florence & how easy is it to do business in Italy?

According to the latest Caritas Dossier as reported in the The Florentine 14 Jan 2010 an English local newspaper), there are 310,000 non Italian residents in Tuscany and this represent 8.4 percent of the regional population. It was reported that Chinese entrepreneurs are the region’s most numerous ( 8,842) . 6.2 percent of all foreign owned businesses in Italy are concentrated in Florence and Prato. Why am I not surprised with these statistics about the Chinese in Florence? A discussion with Mario Cenna, a Florentino, the textile industry in Prato is dominated by Chinese.

As I roam the streets of Florence I recall that in 1974 during my first trip to Florence, I did not see many Chinese faces in the streets. But now there are Chinese businesses at nearly every corner of Florence. I see a Chinese grocer shop that sells anything from toothpicks, instant noodles to face creams and condoms. Of course, the Chinese restaurant with red lanterns hanging outside to advertise its fried rice and noodles (which is spaghetti) is definitely a telling sign that the Chinese are here in this ancient city. These are tangible evidence of the Chinese presence in Florence and in Rome. However it is the invisible presence which interests me greatly. What I cannot see with the naked eye is more significant for it speaks of Chinese entrepreneurialism.

For the Chinese to do business in Italy, they have to rely on a seamless web of connections - the famous or infamous guanxi . I just feel it everywhere in every cell of my body. I know it is there. I feel it. The Chinese in me just knows this! How easy it is to start a business here I say to myself. As a member of the Chinese diaspora, my conscious and unconscious cultural psyche is already an advantage. And the Italians although coming from a European cultural tradition actually share many similarities with the Chinese. Underlying our apparent visible conscious cultures, our unconscious cultures are the same. Both Chinese and Italians are bearers of a collectivistic culture. I can infer from that the Italians are other- directed and family/group centred. When the crunch comes, that is, when they are faced with a cultural dilemma, like the Chinese, they will opt for the group or collective rather than the individual solution. This is the making of guanxi – the interconnectedness of other-directed people and the emphasis they put on the collective, the cultivation and maintenance of this for social and business enterprises.

So is it easy to do business in Italy ? Yes and no. Yes, if you abide by the universal rules of doing business anywhere: begin with an excellent product and/or service, know your business, etc. and add to it a great and talented guanxi. And yes, then you may succeed. No, if you are in a rush. Italians take a while to get to know even if you have the language. Combine Chinklish and Italish and you do not come out with Euro or USA dollars!

Chinese in Florence

I am constantly amazed by the number of Chinese I find in different countries as I travel. This month I am in Italy and today is my fifth day in Florence. I see many Chinese Italians who speak in Chinese dialects sprinkled with Italian words and lo and behold, sounding just like Italian. Very strange to my ears. the Chinese diaspora is a phenomenon that is awesome. Apart from the Jewish dispersal, the Chinese dispersal is probably the largest in the world. Wherever it is, whatever the climate, there are Chinese and they take on the hues and shades of the local populace. In this case, Italy. Although they look different, the Chinese being from the Mongoloid race and the Italian from the Caucasoid race (anthropologically speaking that is), their cultures are the same. Both Italians and Chinese are members of collectivistic culture. It is family centred and hence no coincidence at all that the Italian mafiosa and the Chinese triads are organised along the same lines.

China Matters: Whether we like it or not.

China matters. Whether we like it or not. China matters because the most powerful nation on planet earth is now a debtor to China. China over a relatively short period is now a creditor nation. Money matters. Who owes money and who loans money is a simple equation of who has more power.
China has always mattered. Back in the days of the bamboo curtain, China mattered in a signicant way because together with Russia and little Albania, North Korea and North Vietnam, it formed the communist bloc, anti-thesis to the democratic ideals held by the free world, so called.
In a short space of time, with the liberalised reforms spear headed by Deng Hsiao Peng and fueled by the rapid internet revolution, China, the dragon awakes. The world no longer watches, the world has to speed along this dragon of 1.4 billion people, the biggest market ever. It is time to get to know the Chinese. Who are they? what is their culture? what is their language or do they speak dialects?